1. I am not defined by my job. 
2. How to regulate my emotions. 
3. Life is bigger than now. 

It’s been a year since I’ve had meaningful employment in my line of work. At times it’s felt a bit like unofficial redundancy, with no perks. I have experienced the full spectrum of emotions. Intensely. And whilst I wouldn’t wish this level of stress, discomfort and uncertainty on anyone, it has been a year of powerful transition and I honestly wouldn’t change it. 

I am not defined by my job

When your profession gets taken away from you or is no longer there, you still exist. You might be a shell or a shadow because of the disproportionate amount of time or attention you gave that one part of yourself, but you still exist. 

This time out has given me the opportunity to explore who I am. I have a greater sense of identity (outside of work), and a clearer sense of purpose. This is the start of a lifelong commitment, and I’m grateful to be on a better track. 

The Mayo Jar exercise helped me to recalibrate my priorities. Read When Life Gives You Lemons if you’re interested in reflecting on your life and redefining what matters. 

How to regulate my emotions

Nobody wants to feel down, or stressed, or depressed, or anxious. I have learnt that it is my responsibility to take control of my emotions as best as I can. This is active and difficult and may require help. 

I have learnt to recognise how I am feeling – sounds obvious but absolutely isn’t – and take decisive action. This takes many forms and is deeply personal, but it is possible to do and will lead to a happier, healthier life. 

Life is bigger than now

As well as looking inwards, I have tried to look up and out, across the landscape of my life. It is vast and sprawling. 

I personally admire people who have lived many lives, made richer by experiences and anomalies; extreme situations and difficult decisions becoming interesting stories in years to come. 

I accept that this moment is intensely challenging, but I know that it is temporary, and that my life as a whole will be better for it.

I find myself calmer and more optimistic about the future. I feel inspired and re-invigorated, focussed and ambitious. I am proud of myself and the level of resilience I have been able to access. I appreciate what I have and feel excited about what the future holds. 

I am not defined by my job. I am able to regulate my emotions. I can see that life has more to offer.

I am grateful.

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