Freud’s approach largely boils down to the idea of what’s conscious, what’s not, and what’s somewhere in between. The things that lurk in the unconscious need coaxing out, in order to be dealt with and processed properly. Doing this will set you free and enable you to live a happier life, grounded in self-awareness. 

Imagine a sink that’s draining slowly. It might even be clogged completely, causing water to sit and stagnate in the porcelain bowl. You consider encouraging the water down the plug through force. You could dust the plunger off and emphatically thrust until the little pool has been convinced to move elsewhere, for now. You might scoop the liquid out using small cups and paper towels, before deciding that the bathroom is out of use indefinitely. You could try pouring all manner of products you’ve found or heard about into the basin in an attempt to move things along. The pipework begins to melt and mutate – causing more damage in the process – but if it gets things going again, that’s the problem solved, no?  

The best thing to do would be to work out where the blockage is. Once you’ve done that, you’ll be able to address the problem in a comprehensive way. It could be quite near to the surface, or it could require some digging. It might excavate some unpleasant and unexpected things, and you might need to call in a professional to help with the process. But once this is done properly, rest assured, the water will flow clear and straight through again.

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Freud’s way of thinking attributes problems in the present day to root causes in the past. It’s why it’s believed your formative years and early experiences are so important in shaping who you become as an adult, and how you cope and deal with situations through life.

As I learn more about theory, I feel comforted by the options for growth and change in later life. I like the idea of being able to evolve and develop, rather than be stuck with what you have or what has happened to you.

I think I’ve mostly taken the plunger / scooping approach but now that I am gaining an understanding of the benefits of more extensive work, I look forward to going deeper and learning more.

Are you a plunger, a scooper, or a pourer? Have you called in for reinforcements, or are you attempting to do things on your own?